About our family

This blog was started with love and the need to vent during a stressful time trying to conceive. During the 13 months of TTC we conceived 4 times and had 4 consecutive early miscarriages, also known as ‘Chemical Pregnancies’.

I (Alicia) intended to have a natural conception with no medical intervention and a natural home birth, unfortunately I didn’t know what the future would hold then. I am now happily pregnant with twins who were conceive via IUI at a clinic with lots of medication and needed interventions. Without all of those interventions I don’t believe I’d be carrying these little ones right now. Knowing what I know now I have no premeditated ideals about the hospital birth (and possible C-Section) I will have. All I hope is to be well informed and have healthy babies in the end to bring home with us.

UPDATE: We had our beautiful boy/girl fraternal twins on August 14th, 2015 via C-Section, they were born at 1:01 and 1:02pm. They spent a few days in the NICU due to being 4 weeks early but were and are currently healthy little monsters. As we approach their 2nd birthday we are considering trying to get pregnant again very soon and most likely ill go again before Kate as i have a stronger urge at this time and also a less fertile body. I feel its a now or never for me to carry again and have a shot of a more “natural” pregnancy and birth. Our lives are as hectic as you can probably fathom but our desire to have a larger family outweighs our fears of more chaos. So continue to keep up with us as we progress down this new TTC journey.

My wife (Kate) will carry at also but we are not sure just when that will be. We do hope she can get pregnant with more ease and less intervention than myself but know better than to do more than hope. Kate will be inducing lactation in the hopes that we can both breastfeed our twins!

We are both in our late 30’s, have been happily married since September 2013 and live in the Sierra Foothills of California. Follow along and please comment as I love finding new blogs and meeting new followers.

TTC Sisters


50 thoughts on “About our family

  1. I wanted to search for other lesbian ttc blogs here and I just found your blog and started following. It’s nice to find other lesbian couples ttc their first! We just started as well. I think keeping a blog of the journey is a great idea. 🙂

      • Yes that’s exactly why I started blogging. It’s a good way to let out your fears and get support from others going through the same things. I’ve found quite a few awesome blogs already! I’ll look through your list as well. 🙂

  2. Hi,
    Just found your blog – we too are on a mission to try and have a baby as naturally as possible – 2 x (12 week) MC’s down and the months have turned into years, but hope is on the horizon with a new donor going in for testing next week. Come have a look and maybe follow along…

    • I just started following your blog. I’m sorry about your losses and hope your new donor brings you lots of luck. My “natural” way of trying to bring a baby into our home had turned into a very medicated and monitored event every month. Don’t be surprised if is slides that way for you. Good luck. I’ll be following along!

  3. I decided to move to Word Press because none of my friends and bloggers could follow my blog at blogger. New blog:
    floatalittle.wordpress.com. Please check it out!

  4. Hi there! My wife and I are also a young and newly married lesbian couple (though we were together for 8 years before marrying) and are currently expecting twins in December after 10 IUIs between the two of us and a loss at 20 weeks. Our blog is similar to yours. I wish you two the best of luck, I’ll be following along! 🙂

      • It’s weird for someone to refer to us as “successful”, that’s new! (I love it, haha) We are from Arizona… Not the friendliest state to live in when you’re a lesbian couple trying to raise a family, but our families are here so we make it work. We drove over to New Mexico to get married.

      • Very nice. Well I feel I’ve been unsuccessful in this ttc journey so successful sounds about right for you. I’m sorry for your prior loss, I follow a lot of women in your shoes and can’t imagine the pain. Congrats for continuing your journey. I wish you all the best.

  5. We are from Arizona (Her wife!) I’m checking out your blog as well and love your idea of natural birth. Ideally I would love to give birth naturally but don’t know if I have the pain tolerance for it.

  6. Just found your blog today on the cryobank website. Good luck on your journey. My wife and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, married for 2 and trying to conceive for 1 1/2 years. After multiple failed IUI’s we finally tried IVF and finally have a positive. We are now 6 weeks. Crossing our fingers for the best. Sending baby dust your way.

  7. I have been invited by a fellow blogger to participate in a blog hop for women in writing. She is a fellow RPL/infertility blogger, but not everyone involved is related to infertility (I actually think most are not). This is just a way to connect female bloggers across all communities, and spread the word about infertility. Anyway, I am wondering if you would like to participate? Below are links to my friend’s blog hop post and the post preceding hers. If you’re interested in participating, can you send me your a photo of you and a short bio? My email address is myperfectbreakdown@gmail.com. You can see my bio in my friend’s post for reference. I would like to put my post up by the end of next week, and then I think you have a week or so to put your post up after mine.

    If you are interested, after I post my post with your bio, then you just have to write a brief description about why you write and answer the questions in bold. Be sure to include pics and bios for 2-3 people who you invite to participate.

    What do you think? Is this something you would want to do? If you have more questions, just let me know.

    Here are the links:

    My friend’s post indicating that I’m posting nextt:

    The post preceding hers:

    And the one before that:

  8. Hi hon,

    Just want you to know I’m thinking about you and I just read a blog post that I wanted to share with you. It’s from B’s and Babies. It’s a joint blog of two lovely ladies, Ashley and Devan who have been trying for a long time and had a couple losses, including losing one baby in the second trimester. They are now pregnant with twins. I’m not sure if you have connected with these two amazing ladies yet, but I thought I would share because Devan’s latest post really sums up what this journey is like for so many of us. May this restore your hope a little. Hugs hon ❤


  9. Just found your blog-I am sorry for your loss and hope there is good news on the horizon for you soon. I’ve been out of blog land for a while but am excited to see so many new blogs out there and would love to follow you and your wife’s journey.

  10. Thanks for checking out my blog! I totally hear what you’re saying on trying to keep western medicine away. When I discovered Young Living last October/November and started to learn just how many toxins are in everything we use including OTC’s and prescriptions drugs, I’ve slowly started to remove some of it from our lives…it’s hard though because they are everywhere, lol!!! Good Luck in your journey…I look forward to reading your story even as I wish you didn’t have to write this particular one.

    • My home is almost entirely chemical free. It’s a hard adjustment but in glad we’ve started. Stupid western fertility drugs are the only thing I have had to do as of recently, I guess I cracked on that one 😦

  11. Hey 🙂 Thought I’d leave a comment as it feels strange having a look through someones blog and then wandering off without saying anything, makes me feel like an old man in a rain coat!

  12. Stumbled upon your blog and am in awe. We are also a two mama family TTC our first with the help of clomid. The whole protocol is overwhelming but the results will be worth it 🙂

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