We moved to Grass Valley almost 3 weeks ago. The first week was hell cause the kids had just started teething again and just gotten over being really sick and then we throw them into a giant change of pace and a new house. Kate had one week of work left also so I had to solo parent that week, beyond stressful.
We knew things were going to be tight at first cause Kate had to take a job (medical assistant) that pays like 40% less to get us up here and then continue her search for her “real” career (x ray tech) while living here in hopes that would help. We had discussed that I’d need a part time job 2-3 days a week and that my mom would watch the kids for us for free so it all seemed like it would balance out.
Man were we wrong!
We spent thousands of dollars getting us here because of all the moving costs, and that money was supposed to be for our debt and further family expansion. Now not only do we still have our debt but we are broke for three weeks without pay because she doesn’t get paid for three weeks! I’m tying to find a job that pays over minimum wage, but it has to have the availability I need to make it work with my moms schedule and it is not as easy as I thought it would be.
My mom is amazing and I love her and am so happy to be near her again. I also now have a bunch of friends to see on a regular basis, which is something I haven’t had for years! However, my mom is a bit flaky and it is concerning to Kate and I that she may not be as reliable as we had thought she would be with childcare. Only time will tell of course but it’s a major factor in our moving here.
So now we need to rely on loans from our parents to keep us afloat until kate gets paid and then figure out how to stay afloat after that. We did our budget and we are in the negative by the end of the month, that’s no frills budgeting. So if I don’t land a job soon we could be in the shitter real fast!
Then last night Kate checks out her new benefits plan and Infertility is nowhere to be found….FUCK! So I did some research and I can’t find any infertility coverage through Dignity Health (that’s who she is working for now) no matter how hard I look. CA does not require employers to have infertility coverage in their employee benefits packages. That’s new to me. Her last job had AMAZING coverage 100% to be exact (no IVF) and they had just changed their infertility coverage to cover same sex couples!
Now I’m just feeling like a fool. How did we not think this out in more detail? How can we afford to live here without her having a better job? How can we have more kids…and we want more kids! I’m in shock and also feeling pretty down about it all. I usually do very well with change but I’m not doing so well now. All I can hope is that I find work soon and Kate finds a better job soon. I want her to be working for her old employer, Sutter, again.
Thanks for reading my bitch post I needed to vent it all out.