If I have to do this new nap routine suggested in ‘The No Cry Sleep Solution’ I may lose my shit lol.
Currently our naps routine looks like this:
- Start the sound machine
- Close the curtains
- Swaddle both babies
- Put Daiton in the bouncer wih a pacifier and bounce him
- Nurse Emerie and get her relaxed or asleep
- Transfer her to the swing (that I start beforehand cause it’s noisy to start)
- Nurse Daiton to sleep and then transfer him to our bed
- They sleep 40min on average until their last nap which is about 1-3hours on a good day.
What I should be doing based on the book:
- Not swaddling them
- Not closing the curtains
- Not using a swing
- Not nursing to sleep
- Only letting them nap 2-3 times a day for a total maximum time of 3-4hours
- Putting them in their crib
- Standing by to help them back to sleep if they rouse to get them to sleep longer
So yesterday I tried all of the above. It was the worst day emotionally for all of us since they were 3 months old. Nap one Emerie slept 20 minutes on her tummy on our bed, Daiton slept 30 minutes on our bed. Both woke up crazy cranky. The next hour all they did was fuss so I couldn’t tell when to put them down or if they were hungry, and nothing I did helped them.
The second nap I tried Daiton in the swing to relax him while I fed Emerie he got more awake and just played in the swing. Emerie has a hard time going to sleep cause he was noisey. So I switched them and then Emerie got mad and just fussed and fought her nap, but Daiton nursed and fell asleep with the binky. He slept for 45min but I swaddled him after a long fight. Emerie fell asleep after I got her out and I put her back and she woke up 25 minutes later.
Again both were fussy and didn’t want anything I offered. At this point it was so chaotic I lost track of who ate and who didn’t, when they are, when they woke up, etc.
They fought their naps HARD each time and the third nap I tired swaddling them and bouncing both in their bouncers. It relaxed Daiton but pissed Emerie off. I eventually had to nurse Emerie to sleep while breaking my back “rocking” her on the couch. Then put her in the bouncer and did the same with Daiton. They lasted no longer than 30 minutes but I forgot to check the time so I’m not totally sure.
I was on the verge of tears all day. They were crying all day. I can’t remember who ate how many times and they only Kates happily twice.
When Kate’s mom got home I was at the end of my rope. Emerie kept making a terrible cry and pouty face I’ve never seen and Daiton was glazed over and fussing. She helped by taking them for me for a short while until I got them to go back to sleep for their last nap. Again Emerie lasted 20 minutes but Daiton slept 1 hour!
By the time he woke up it was 7pm and time to start their bedtime routine. Unfortunately Kate wasn’t home yet so I procrastinated and at dinner. When she got home we had a fast paced routine.
New Bedtime routine:
- Start sound machine
- Turn off all lamps and turn on all candles
- Massage babies with lotion while humming
- Put them in their PJs, night swaddle and wearable blankets.
- Nurse, rock/sway
- Put Daiton in the crib and Emerie on the bed
They stayed asleep for an hour before Daiton woke. Kate put him back down. Then he woke again and I nursed him shortly after.
They slept for another hour before Daiton woke again. Kate put him to sleep again.
Emerie woke up a few hours later and we tried to get her to sleep without nursing but figured she was hungry cause it took a long time to calm her.
Emerie slept better not sleeping right next to Daiton. So now I’m thinking having them both in the same crib may not work. But we will try it out soon and see what happens.
Today I went back to our old nap routine and we decided we would simply start with bedtime changes. Once they are used to those changes I’ll tweak the nap routine slowly until I find what works for them and me. Although my days are hectick with thier current nap schedule I can manage and it’s been working for us this long what’s a little longer?
They slept good today and their tempements were a lot better too. I think too much too soon threw them off yesterday. Tonight’s bedtime routine went well again but Daiton is waking a lot more frequently benign in the crib.
Wish us luck!