What should I expect and what should I ask?
I know my OB already but not as well as my RE and I have no idea what this first appointment will entail or what I should know going into it.
I do believe I get an ultrasound out of it, I will press her for one if not!
I have a lot of anxiety suddenly. Feeling like something bad is coming my way and I don’t like that feeling. I keep having dreams of the babies not being there or one of them not having a heartbeat next time. I’ve been so calm I’m mad my subconscious is doing this to me.
On a totally different note. I need some advice and or a listening ear. Over the past two years Kate and I have been through a lot of stress. I’ve been in and out of work more than most and financially we’ve struggled to make end meet. On top of that Kate had been in school and working full time for one of those years, planning a wedding and then jumping into TTC while I battles major depression.
Because of all those this, I’m assuming, sex has been less than a priority at least for me. We went from sex a few times a week to who knows when we last had sex. It saddens me to know how large of a role I play in this part of our life. I’m the one who doesn’t want it very often, Kate just waits patiently for me to make the first move. It’s got to be disheartening and frustrating for her.
The past year trying to get pregnant has been the worst of it. Unlike hetero couples trying to get pregnant for us does not include having sex. Also we have two cycles to coordinate when to have sex. That leaves us with a week or two a month to have sex. Then we got concerned about having sex during the TWW in case it wouldn’t help measures. Now we were down to maybe a week in a month of safe sex zone time.
One day I realized “holy shit we haven’t had sex in over two months!”, so I initiated it, and it was well received. Since then I have felt nearly no desire to have sex nor pleasure myself, and I hate to admit it but I’ve been lazy on just pleasing my wife as well.
Since becoming pregnant that interest in sex has decreased even more. I now have sex dreams all the time, but when I wake up I’m not at all in the mood. WTF?
What do I do to overcome this? Is it normal to lose interest in sex during pregnancy? I’ve heard the exact opposite from most my friends. I do think being in a same sex relationship plays a larger role because a testosterone filled male would most likely initiate more than two estrogen filled women.
Hetero advice welcome, but I am very interested in what the lesbian couples have to say about this one. I’m feeling like this isn’t normal.